The wifes name was Ellen Parker....we have a certificate for a JAMES Thomas Arnold marrying an Ellen Parker id N Aylesford Sep 1852 . If you go to the 1861 Census the only ' Ellen '; Arold is Married to Juhn Thopmas Arnold - so we are about to get the origional Certificate checked in case it is a mistranslation, in the Indexes ect. it does not help at the moment asw we do not know the name of Ellens father, as her mother is a Widow on thye 1851, with John living with her family - so no lead on his fathers name either.
I tried to find the Parker family on the 1841 Census for Milton nxt Gravesend today with no luck.
I still could do with an 1841 Census look- up where hopefully at age about 10 he is at home, ' tucked ' up in bed, with Mum and Dad, figurately speaking.

Thanks for your time and consideratyion..now to free BMD.

- Clif