Look in the online telephone book for Roscommon and Sligo to locate the surnames in the areas mentioned above. There is usually families still living there. Give all the information above.
Not sure that there was a family dispute, people lived where ever they could in those days and also children raised by relatives if you couldn't afford to keep them fed and clothed better than the Workhouse and orphanages.
I would look but this computer too old to access many current websites.
I think John would of been a family friend or relation if present at a death. She could of been buried almost anywhere, she may have been taken home or not.
Try for Graveyard inscriptions, photo's etc. at various websites:www.igp-web.comwww.from-ireland.netwww.ancestorsatrest.comwww.interment.netwww.findagrave.com
Griffith Valuation: www.askaboutireland.ie
John Tooher or his ancestor is in the Griffith Valuation for Roscommon in 1858 had 151 acres
in the Townland of Clashmore, quite a significant lease/holding for the time, the owner was
Captn. Thomas Bernard
There is also in the same townland a Daniel Tooher
There is also a Peter McDonogh in Sligo. Peter was an unusual name for the times unlike John.
Peter McDonogh, Parish Kilfree, Townland Kilstraghland/Ragwood, Poor Law Union Boyle
tenant of Richd. P. Irvine (Reps) can be a politician or perhaps an executor of an estate
24a house, outbuilding and land 17 acres 0 roods 10 perches
Dromoyle is not far on a map from Birr.
There is a new website that might be of help to you. www.irelandxo.com