Don't know if this will help or just make it more difficult.
Brian Cantwell's Memorial Inscriptions from Gravestones:
Ballyvarig had only St. Aiden's RC Poulfur :
James Staford, Boly in memory of wife Eliner died Jan 7, 1833 (no further information)
a)Thomas Stafford, Ballynabogue died Sept 15, 1943 age 24 and uncle James d Nov 14, 1958 age 66, Elizabeth Stafford d Aug 19 1964 age 72.
b) John Stafford, Ballyvarig in memory of father Thomas
Stafford d Nov 7, 1832 age 65 and mother Anne Stafford
d July 8, 1847 age 65 and two sisters
Anty Feb 11, 1829 age 25 &
Margaret Nov 9, 1844 age 28
c)in Memory of Thomas Stafford, Ballynabogue (yes a b)
died Feb 5, 1903 age 57. Bridget Stafford Aug 31st. 1931 age 73. (no reference to how connected)
There are approximately another 88 graveyards listed for
Wexford Stafford's each could easily have multiple names, another source has over 300 individual names. There are 13 named Thomas Stafford.Castletown, RC, Galbally, RC, Carnagh, Adamstown St. Abbans, Grange, Wexford St. Mary's,
Ballyvalloo Old, Castlebridge RC, Ballyfad RC, Bannow,
Coolstuff Old, Trinity Most Holy RC.
You can find these on pay website with short subscriptions
vs. the CD which is now about 57.77 Euro or $78.00
There are also a number of Thomas Stafford's listed in the Directories of Ireland for Wexford. Most 1870, 1881, 1885, 1894 some repeated. However, one more in the right date
range is 1846:www.failteromhat.com
has both 1824 & 1846 free online and a modified version of Griffith Valuationwww.genealogy.nationalarchives.ie
1820-1839 (parish and townlands given and a date but no further detail, the original microfilm has details such as given for Griffith Valuation)www.askaboutireland.ie
Griffith Valuation with details such as landlord, property description, you can see the neighbours as well