I am one of the British Wilbands. I have been trying to find the link to Thomas Wilband (Love) for some time but no luck so far. I can trace back to my GGG William Wilband who was born in 1752 . The Wilbands originated from the English Midlands around the Leicestershire / Nottinghamshire area. There are stil a few 'clusters' of us over here.
I have recently been in touch with Beverley Patterson and Pat Wilband both descendents of Thomas. Do you have contact with them? If not I am sure they would love to hear from you and if you wsh I can send you their e-mail addresses.