As a member of the Eckman-Eckmann family I can clarify the confusion of names, spellings and relationships - much of which derives from a posted obituary for Anna Klaeser containing typos and errors. There were two obits for Anna, one from each of the daily newspapers of the time. One was correct, the one posted was not. Some surname misspellings in applicable census documents probably added to the confusion.
My great-grandmother Catherine Deden, born in Germany, married a Hanover landowner John Behr who died shortly before the birth of their only child also named John Behr. Catherine then married businessman Henry L. Eckmann and they had five children: Anna Catherine, Katherine Anna, Henry Luther, Julius Jacob and Mary Margaretha Eckmann. All six of the children eventually immigrated to the States. Catherine was the last to do so, in 1892, and resided with her daughter Anna until her death.
John Behr, a half sibling to the Eckmann's, was a seafaring man finally settling in San Francisco. He later moved to near Clear Lake, California and acquired extensive land holdings there. He was possibly married first to a Mary Crenshaw. He later married Emma S. Johnson. One known child.
Anna Catherine Eckmann married Frederick Wilhelm Steinmeyer and they resided in Sacramento, California where he owned a grocery. They had one 'adopted' son Henry Louis Steinmeyer (see notes). After Frederick died, Anna later married William Klaeser. No children from that union.
Katherine Anna Eckmann married Ferdinand Heinrich Gleie and they resided in Sacramento. Ferdinand was a grocer and later a machinist. He and Katherine had six children.
Henry Luther Eckman - my maternal grandfather - settled in Sacramento and was a clerk in Frederick Steinmeyer's grocery eventually becoming the owner. Henry, who was called Harry by his siblings, married Anna Pauline Dressler. They had five children. Henry dropped an "n' from his surname for unknown reasons when coming to this country, possibly during the immigration process.
Julius Jacob Eckmann also settled in Sacramento and he too was a grocer owning his own business. Julius married Caroline S. Lau and they had three children.
Mary Margaretha Eckmann married John Lenhart Siller and lived in Sacramento where he became a succesful building contractor. He and Mary later moved to San Francisco. They had two children.
The biological status of Henry Louis Steinmeyer remains unresolved. No birth records have yet surfaced to prove or disapprove adoption. To what has been discussed previously I can only add that the birthing data for Catherine Eckmann in the 1900 census that showed one child was incorrect and therefore the birthing data for daughter Anna in the same census showing zero could as easily be wrong. On the other hand, leaning towards adoption, the 1880 census (at age four) indicated Henry's father as from Hanover and his mother from California. Yet, in the same census Frederick is from Prussia and Anna from Hanover.
The Steinmeyer burial plot is in The Masonic Lawn Cemetery which is adjacent to the old City Cemetery in Sacramento. There is no internal fence separating the two cemeteries and, a stone's throw away, is the Gleie-Eckman plot in the City Cemetery.
In the Steinmeyer plot we find Frederick Steinmeyer, his widow Anna Klaeser, son Henry and his wife Annie and their infant son William. His brother John Henry is also there as is Catherine Eckmann.
In the Gleie-Eckman plot are Ferdinand Gleie and wife Katherine along with one of their children. Buried there also is Henry Eckman and wife Anna along with three of their children, one of which is my mother.