Several years ago there was a California State Law, not just Santa Clara Co., passed that upon arrival at the age of 18 an adoptee may request his original birth records, PROVIDED the birthmother has not put a waiver in the file indicating that she DOES NOT want to be contacted. I was a member of a support group called CUB, Concerned United Birthparents, who with other support agencies lobbied to get the bill passed. Unfortunately, they could not get the politicians to allow it to be retroactive. While attending these groups I heard someone say "if a mother can love to children, why can't a child love 2 mothers?" It had a profound effect on me that I will never forget. A beautiful book was written Carole Shaefer(of the Bay area I think) titled "The Other Mother" a must read for all birthmothers! God Bless and good luck. I found my son Nov. 1992 when he was 23, we are very close and love each other.
Donna