I’m not related to any member of this family.
Not everyone has or wants an obit published.
Order her death cert. from OK.
If married - use her married name.
TRY - Find a grave – FREE SITE - volunteer site all states; frequently has headstone pic
NEVER SEARCH FOR A MARRIED WOMAN USING HER MAIDEN NAME.http://www.worldvitalrecords.com/
Try Vital Records – Birth, Marriage, & Death, Social Security Info, Census Records – FREE ALL STATEShttp://search.labs.familysearch.org/