I am just trying to track down your email and starting by w/ a search on Rootsweb.
I'll go thru old Sutherland emails if this doesn't work...
Recall we exchanged information on the Sutherland - Elfrink family (marriage 1879 Bollinger Co, MO).
I now have a couple of interesting CW pension file records of Mary M. Sutherland's brother, which include Henry Elfrink's name. This leads me to finally seriously consider that Mary Madora, b. 1856 IN is indeed my Mary M b. 1854 IN. Furthermore, I suspect she had a short, previous marriage to a Brainard...things just seem to 'add up', yet they don't quite. (-:
Please email me directly at KayClerc@yahoo.com