Yes. Me too.
I agree that the family buried in Middletown (at the PNC Center)are not Gilbert's direct family, though he was a member of the same church in Middletown as was that Crawford family.
Gbert's family spent their lives in Holmdel proper, in Freehold, in Colt's Neck and in Marlboro.
The names Gilbert, James and George persisted in this particular line.
I have found no early records of Gilbert's father - anywhere.