I realize that it has been over 10 years since this query was posted, but I do have information about one of the men on this list, Joseph Grant. He was my great-grandfather and is buried in Riverside Cemetery in Toms River, NJ. I have a photo of the very nice gravestone. The death date of 20 January 1904 is correct per his death certificate, although the gravestone says 21 January 1904.