Hey I am not a part of your family. However, there is a small grave yard in that area of Ocean County, the town was a small town with less then 100 people in it in the 1920's. Anyway the town was called Brookville. A very good friend of mine and I visit her grandparents grave in the Reeves town Cemetery (in Brookville) I am not sure if it is the same Estlow family or not seems way to close to not be, anyway we stumbled across a small "rock" with the name DEB ESTLOW carved in it... we didn't under stand why her Rock wasn't the same as the other family Estlow's in the grave yard, they all actually had headstones with dates and all that on them. hers is just a rock with her name, set a part from the rest of the family. We tried looking her up a little. We came up with that she was Deborah A. Estlow, she lived in brookville, nj in 1910 census has her and her husband Jesse S. Estlow. and then her again as a widow in 1930. We can't find anything else on her. Do you know anything of her?