It would appear that she was moved from Brockport after 8th grade, I am slowly searching yearbooks from the various Monroe county schools ( using the ones posted to classmates.com). I have run exhaustive searches on the Fulton Postcards website ( which is fantastic) , it was the place where I found the names and birth dates of all the siblings - so very helpful. But ... I wish I could find a marriage notice - what a lead and break thru that would be.
Thank you all so much for all the suggestions and help ..... still chugging along looking under every stone! Next stop is a letter to the dept of Health and Human services in Monroe county asking for help!