Hi, I agree that Nancy was not Alexander's wife and I would love to receive the documents that prove it and where Mary applied for her dower. I had guessed that Mary Jarvis / Tillet was his widow because she was guardian to the minor children. I am descended from Alexander and Mary's daughter, Nancy, who married Thomas Gray. I haven't been able to find all the documents even though I have ordered all the microfilm that the LDS has. The son Robert's estate settlement is on the Currituck County, NC GenWeb site, but I can't find the film of it. That is where I found the proof that Namcy was Alexander's daugher because she received a portion of the land of Robert's estate as it was divided equally among his siblings. I have all the deeds where Roberts' siblings sell their portion to Thomas Whitehall.
I have a deed of when Nancy Gray, daught6er of Thomas & Nancy Gray sells the land she inherited from Thomas Gray to her monther, Nancy, before she and her husband, Daniel Burfoot Lindsey, leave for Mississippi. Let me know if you want any of that.
Julia French WoodJuliaFWood@aol.com