Hello Cathy Cole,
I, too, am a descendant of James Bird Cole - s/o Bird Cole and Marla Massie Cole. Have you learned anything more about James' mother? Interestingly, James and sister, Lucinda, are named in Bird's will and given very little money compared to the half-siblings born to Bird's wife, Sarah Underwood. I think there may have been "bad blood" between James and his father. There is no mention by James as to his mother. SOMEONE has to know who his mother was.
Any information would be much appreciated. I'm not going to stop looking for her.