"... I don't know which one died in 1874 ..."
That was the husband of Jacobine, 35 yrs old; his death notices were published in at least 2 of Milwaukee's German newspapers. Another Jacob Wendling (63 yr) died in 1937, survived by a Rose Wendling. He had death notices and an obit. with photo in these papers, and death anniversary notices published in the 3 years following! These are some of the 50+ entries or references to Wendling families found in "Milwaukee's German Newspapers; an index of death notices and related items" (1844-1950).
Gary Rebholz, compiler/editor
Indexing Milwaukee's German newspapers continuously since 2007... helping family researchers collect evidence of our historic German-American culture.