Umm, okay. It's not relevant to this genealogy quest, which is why I didn't expand. Here is the quote:
"I want to find out what happened to this lost aunt. Other than the clear indication that you would not want to live with her (any woman who can drive to men to murder must indeed have been an impossible wife!)"
No woman drives a man to murder. No wife is so impossible that a husband just "can't help himself" from killing her. There is no justification for violence against another person, let alone a spouse. Blaming the victim is a wrong-headed and ignorant response to family violence. The quote is disturbing in the extreme.
Looking at the entire statement in the link, I see no reason to believe humor was intended, and if it was, it misses the mark by a long shot. Even in the current query, the statement is made that "Anna was apparently a very difficult woman to be married to," a bogus conclusion with no foundation or evidence. She did appear to have a pattern of choosing abusive partners - which is decidedly NOT the same as being "hard to live with." To the contrary, the pattern suggests she may have been a meek or passive woman.
I do share a common social value - that self-defense is justified, including the defense of others and the defense of one's country. We don't know the truth of what happened. I am objecting to the quote; I am not trying to define or analyze the events without knowing the facts.