Thank you Mollipops for the 2 messages. Sorry I haven't got back to you before now. I just have go back to this site as I would have hoped. I'll be making attempts to do so from now on.
I have a bit to sort through and get my head around. But one quick thing I noticed was your mention on "Elsie and Grace". The two sisters which are/were my mums first cousins are Elsie and Netta. Grace was my mum's mum. I hope I haven't confused you at all.