Patricia, I was a little confused by your message where you switched surnames from Ary to Grinder but I think I have it figured out. Left me know if I miss something here. From my data base, starting with you and going back, I have:
Patricia Grinder, brother David.
f. Abner Warren Grinder b. Feb. 28, 1906 d. Mar. 29, 1994, buried Ary Cemetery, Sinking Creek, Perry Co., TN.
m. Carmie Mercer b. 1924
gf. Noah Theodore Grinder b. Nov. 11, 1875 d. Jan. 12, 1924, buried Ary Cemetery, Sinking Creek, Perry Co., TN.
gm. Mary Jane Ary b. Jan. 10, 1881 d. Nov. 19, 1954, buried Ary Cemetery, Sinking Creek, Perry Co., TN.
ggf. William Grinder b. 1833 d. Mar. 2, 1914.
ggm. Sarah Jane Ledbetter b. 1837 d. Jan. 29, 1904.
ggf. William M. Ary b. Aug. 7, 1840 d. Apr. 20, 1924, buried Ary Cemetery, Sinking Creek, Perry Co., TN.
ggm. Mary Jane Warren b. Dec. 18, 1846 d. Jan. 14, 1922, buried Ary Cemetery, Sinking Creek, Perry Co., TN.
gggf. Henry Ary b. 1794, Rowan Co., NC d. bet. 1840-1850.
gggm. Sophia Frailey(Fraley) b. Dec. 1795, NC d. Mar. 1892, buried Ary Cemetery, Sinking Creek, Perry Co., TN.
ggggf. Zachariah Eary(Ary) b. bef. 1765, NC d. abt. Feb. 1815, Rowan Co., NC.
ggggm. Susanna ?
gggggf. Petter Ihrig(Ary, Eary, Ihrich, Ihrick, etc.) b. Aug. 19, 1715 Mosbach, Germany d. abt. Apr. 1765, Rowan Co., NC.
gggggm. Mary Cathren ?
ggggf. Jacob Frailey b. ? d. abt. 1828, Wayne Co., TN.

This has pretty much been verified through census records and other books and documents for what its worth. There have been many conflicts which I have tried to verify by multiply sources (still no guarantees). I have a lot more data that has not been checked out yet so I am more cautious about spreading it around. I would be willing to discuss it one on one with anyone who would be interested in helping me sort things out.

I hope this helps Patricia. If you will contact me at wary@hiwaay.net I can fill you in on a lot more details.

Will