I really don't know much on how to find relatives but I will give you what I have on a James Boling, Jr.
James Boling, Jr. Born: 1779 Died 1879
Married: Jensie Morison Born 1789 Died 1881
1 child listed: James Jackson (Jack) Boling
Married (not listed) Date of death not listed but apparent birth place or death place was: Patesville, KY (Boling Chapel, KY) 1 son listed for James Jackson Boling: Jack Boling (No place of birth or death listed) This Jack Boling married: Rachel Reede of Hancock County, KY. 1 child listed: Milinda Katherine Boling Born: Sept.28,1871-died Jan. 26, 1956 Charleston, MO. IOOF Cem. Charleston, MO. Milinda K. Boling married: William Walter Stowe born: 1859-died Feb.4, 1919 (aged 60) at Steele, MO. Upper Cooter Cem. William and Milinda had several children. One (my father) Charles William Stowe, born: 2/07/1890 died 12/21/1071 Bradenton, Florida. There is mentioned: Elve Boling grandson of Jack Boling and his 2nd wife Maiden name: Openchain. Elva is not grandson of Rachel Reede. Information says that Elva Boling resides Reynold Station, KY. I have no idea when this info was gathered but it is not especially recent. There may have been other children born to all Bolings listed here but this is all I have. Does any of this fit your info?