I have searched this puzzle for many years and have info. but not many positive documents yet.
I suspect Simeon had 2 wives. The 1st was Sarah Ann, who I suspect is the mother of Moses N. Cole(b. 1836, d.7 Feb 1862) and Rhoda Mariah Cole, b.1838 (who is my ancester).Family stories say Rhoda's parents died young and she was raised by Uncles with strange names. Moses andRhoda are mentioned with Simeon and Sarah Ann in the diary of Jennie Cole (dau. of Simeon Barber Cole) of Lorraine 1875. Benoni and Hannah are Jennie's grandparents. Simeon was age 30 in 1850 census., married about 1835 in Jeff. Co., NY, to Sarah Ann...age 31 in same census, and born in R. I. Simeon's 2nd wife was
Adelia "Delia" M. Bassett who was born 4 Nov 1823 and died 28 Nov 1898. (1830 census)They had several children, but didn't raise Moses or Rhoda. Delia must not have wanted to raise them.
Benoni was born 31 Mar 1795 in Vermont (1825 State Census of Jeff. Co., NY., died June 1870 LaFargeville, N.Y. Hannah Kenyon Cole was born 25 Mar 1802 and died 1 May 1855, buried at Tanners Corners, Alexandria, Jeff., NY
If you want more of my research I will be glad to share.
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