If you read through the messages, I found Pamelia to be a Bowers while someone else said she was a Putnam before marriage. Have you reconciled this? On her death certificate, what were the parents' names listed (you indicated her father had Dana or Cobb as a surname)? Also, are you sending your posts to the mailing list (where you signed up tells you what address to use for sending) because I am still getting them from the bulletin board?