Lauren, I'm Betty Hargrave & I can assure you I'm not deceased. You may be referring to one of my sister-in-law's whose name was Betty Hargrave also & she is deceased. I also have another sister-in-law named Bette Hargrave & she is alive & well also. Quite confusing I must admit. Anyway, my husband's family is the Hargrafen/Hargrave family from Germany. Would love to share info with you! You can e-mail me direct or post a message here as well. Thank You !