I just came across you query about the Cole and Fones family connections. My ggggrandfather was William Fones born in Nth Kingston RI - he fought in the Revolutionary War and his friend and neighbour was John Fones. After the war they left RI and went to Erie Co NY. William Fones married Dorcas Sherman and two of their daughters married Cole boys. One of those boys was Benjamin Cole. If you want more precise information I can send you what I have on the marriages etc. I think we might have a match!
Kindest regards Karen Kestigian
PS: William Fones is buried in Wales Centre Cemetery along with John Fones - they are the only two Revolutionary soldiers there.