I am at a crossroads. As far as i can get with my husbands Family is his grandfather Rufus James Lillys Father was Tobe Lilly and his Mother as Sallie Lilly. Rufus and Sallie are both listed as Mulatto (which was new information to our family) we are not sure of which mix this means. and i can not get passed Tobe Lilly nor can i find Any information on him. The only reason i even know that is Rufus Father is becuase my Father in Law remembered it. They are the Lilly family of North Carolina. 1880 or so.