My grandfather, the late Robert Lee Barker (1932-1976) was devastated to learn at a late age that his father was not really his father. My great grandmother never told him (or otherwise the remaining family doesn't recall) the man's first name, just that he was really a Paisley and not a Barker.

This caused some trouble in his life, and in turn it caused trouble in my Dad's life, because he himself didn't learn of this "family secret" until his father, my grandfather had died from leukemia in 1976.

My grandmother has been in a home due to the effects of dementia so there is no one left to ask. Both my great grandparents (grandmother and adopted grandfather) have passed away. No one even recalls what my great grandmother's given name was because she died before my Dad, aunt and uncles were old enough to really know her and my adopted great grandfather remarried much later on in life.

I'm trying to find any information I can on a Paisley male that may have had a wife in North Carolina in the 1930's (most likely Ashe County) and who may or may not have known about his son born there.

It is unclear also at this point whether or not my grandfather was legally adopted or if they just gave him the Barker family name after their marriage.

I've got nothing much to work with at this time, my grandfather died before I was born and my grandmother didn't like talking about it when she was in good health because it was "scandalous." I can't continue searching into my past unless I can figure out who my great grandfather really is.