Well, thank you very much!
It makes me crazy that until 1850, no one was required to write down the names of all people in a household, in a census. I have another grandmother, on my father's side, with the same situation...died just prior to the 1850 census and with a common name, so that it is difficult to track her down.
Also, now that I have more time on my hands, without kids at home, I no longer live in New Jersey. When I did live there, I just didn't have time to look things up. Such is life, right? ;)