Have you seen the 4 pages of Violet's pension file?
Page 1 is at https://familysearch.org/pal:/MM9.3.1/TH-1-16096-25332-15?cc...
One of the pages has signatures of Violet's siblings (Lucinda made her X mark.)
Also check Arkansas Confederate records on FamilySearch.
Violet says that Jesse died at Shiloh, while his service packets (available on FamilySearch but linked to Fold3, a fee-based site) indicate he died not at Shiloh (which was in 1862) but 27 May 1864 of wounds received at New Hope Church.