Cousin Julie,
I've been contacted by your father's first cousin, Jane's nephew. He's out of the country at the moment; he's a famous treasure-hunter (Good Morning America, National Geographic, etc.). I emailed him about your dad and asked what he knew; he's not back to me yet, but he is in the middle of the ocean!!
I've been thinking about who was where and doing what in the late winter and early spring of 1935 (11 years BEFORE I was born, but I'm kind of the family historian). I have a sneaky suspicion that I may know who your grandfather was. I remembered a weird remark one of my older sisters made when I was a little squirt and not supposed to hear; it started the wheels turning.
If you could email me photos of your father, yourself and siblings at all ages (I know it's a big job; I'm sorry), I can sort out the Lilly features from the features of the man I believe may be the culprit.
Part of me hopes I'm right, but for your sakes, I hope I'm not. Hate to be so secretive, but this forum is too public for details. If I'm right about your "grandfather", I know how to get in touch with sons of two of his brothers for DNA samples to confirm or deny. Please email me (
psalm91rw@yahoo.com).
Rosemary