Hello Robin: I know of only two Jared Hawleys. Tombstone Jared, Rev war, who is called John in the Hawley Record, and his son Jared, no grave. Hawley Record says the son was born abt 1771. He married Susan Briggs, The two Jareds are in the 1820 census for Rome NY. Perhaps Jared 2 is on later census. No children of Jared 2 are given in the Hawley record. Census info and cem. transcriptions are on NY Oneida Co. rootsweb. All the info in the Hawley Record is at www.Hawleysociety.org
. No primary sources. They have researchers, but I've not used them. Jared 2's brother, Thomas (my line) married Mary Briggs, so the bros. prob. married sisters. Prob. born in Preston, New London Conn. Family moved to Shaftsbury, Bennington Vt. (after war?) Sister Eliz. there married Paul Herrington. Wright Settlement , Rome, was settled by a group from Vt. Numerous Hawleys in Bennington Co 1790 census, but no Jared Hawley (although Jared as first name pretty common there).
I find the Ohio connection interesting. My Alcesta was born Rome, but dau. Ceraphana was born Ohio abt 1838. Were back in NY 1860. Perhaps some of the Rome family moved into Ohio together. Ohio lands given to Conn. people whose homes were burned by Brits. "The firelands". Also Northern Ohio was the Western Reserve of Conn. Are your acres there?
Wish I could be of more help. Matt