Actually I have all the respect in the world for anyone's privacy, that's a given. I don't bother contacting any of the boat load of 5th to 8th DNA matches I have received...too distant. I probably, since Sept., have only received less than 20 4th cousin matches. Out of that have only contacted 4 people, 3 have responded. My question wasn't so much for myself...but for other people who I know who are getting no responses to their trying to contact. Believe me I have searched for the impossible and have found. I'm no stranger to patience. Patience is always key in my book.