S_H999, i'm aware of the little trash can and its purpose, however, i don't want to put any potential matches in the trash. i'd just like to be able to sort out those trees which are currently unavailable to me.
as sl_kelly pointed out, i'd then be able to see when a tree was attached and/or made public (thank you, sl_kelly, that's exactly what i meant).
and smsitton, you've described the method i've been using to go thru my trees, but i have over 5,100 matches, my mom has over 5,600 matches, and that's alot of useless clicking and time wasted for nothing in return from the private/no-tree matches.
thank you all for your input, i appreciate it.