Good news, bad news, I'm afraid. The DAR Patriot Index did have an Abel Gridley listed, but he's not yours. However, he may the father of yours.
The Abel Gridley we had was born 9-28-1729 in CT and has service as a Private from CT. He was married to Hannah Clark and died 2-24-1808 in CT. He had no pension.
Perhaps with further research, you can establish your line to this older Abel. As for the younger, it just means that no woman has to date joined DAR using the younger as their patriot ancestor.
Good luck with your research.
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